When God Stopped Keeping Score...

When God Stopped Keeping Score...

by R.A. Clark

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Anger... Resentment... Guilt... Pain... For millions of people, not every prison comes with a set of bars. That's because at some point, no matter who you are, regardless of your race, creed, religion or even gender, everyone has suffered at the hands of another person.

The question is whether this wrong happened two minutes or twenty years ago, whether this person is living or dead, why are you still allowing yourself to suffer because of it? Why is this pain still being allowed to destroy the very relationships that you have with your friends, family, God and even yourself? There is help, but, are you ready to accept it?

In this ground breaking study of the power of forgiveness, R.A. Clark, an award-winning educator and life coach, challenges not only what you thought that you knew about forgiveness, but also questions the heavy emotional price that you must be willing to pay to live without it.

In a world where it is often hard to love, when there is so much to hate, somebody will finally tell the truth about the lies that we tell ourselves about forgiveness. Including...

- Why you should never forgive and forget...

- When is the right time for forgive anyone for anything...

- Why your "silence" maybe slowly destroying your family...

- The only biblical way that there is to forgive anyone...

- Also, discover just who is the one person that you should always forgive, even when your heart tells you not to...

Prepare yourself. This book is the first step in a remarkable journey to help you to become the spouse, parent and/or friend that you were truly meant to be; the one person that many people only wish that they were and others will only continue to pretend to be without it.

Product Details

BN ID: 2940013520790
Publisher: March Third Imprints
Publication date: 03/03/2012
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Sales rank: 139,390
File size: 100 KB

About the Author

R.A. Clark is a gifted, award winning educator and life coach. With the lost of his mother and a father, who battled substance abuse, R.A. Clark understands adversity and challenges. R.A. Clark has used his past struggles to help others. In a continued effort to give back, proceeds from the sale of his work, including this book, will go to support various women and children charities. R.A. Clark currently lives with his family and works in Philadelphia, PA.

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When God Stopped Keeping Score... 3.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 84 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I can honestly say I didn't have the best relationship with my mother growing up. I often felt like everything that I did wasn't enough. It left me angry and at times, depressed. The first chance I got I moved away from home determined to start a better life. I still call home, but the calls are often short with me always making the call. Then, one day, a co-worker was reading this book. She shared the first chapter with me. Within minutes, I made up my mind to order a copy for both my mother and I. Last week, my mother called me. She has called me almost every day since to check in. The first night, we talked for over two hours about of all things this book and I am glad. We are talking. I mean really talking for the first time in my life. I am 28 and for me, it was a start. Everyone in your past shouldn't stay there. For the author, you have my respect. I could never thank you enough. This book is a must read and something you should share with the people that you love.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
After years of battling depression, due to a failed marriage, a bitter divorce and a nasty custody battle, I was given a copy of this book by my Mother. She had already read it and felt I could use it. She didn't say anything about it, she just said read it and I am so happy that I did. Let me warn you this book isn't for everyone. The author, himself, will be the first to tell you that this book isn't for everyone and it isn't. It isn't for the skeptics and the people who claim they already know what forgiveness is. Some will, or have, read it, just to say something negative about it. (There is a chapter in here about people like that too.) If anybody has a problem with this book, you should know that it's not on the delivery; it is in what the book says and what it will mean to you. You don't know how many times that this book made me so angry, not at what the author wrote, but because for years, I had allowed myself to be angry at my ex-husband, my family and my friends and the only person that I ended up hurting was me. I found myself at times blaming myself for very things that weren't my fault. Other times, I was, as the book also says, pointing fingers and found three fingers being pointed right back at me. In the end, I had to learn a very important lesson about myself, where some books will only talk briefly about forgiveness; this book did more than that. When God Stopped Keeping Score is the first and only book that I have ever read to teach me how to forgive the one person, who deserves forgiveness the most, me. You can not begin to forgive anyone until you learn to forgive yourself. Given a chance, I promise you, this book will change how you look at your friends, your family and more importantly, yourself. That's why I strongly recommend you make it a part of your permanent collection.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
As a trained and licensed counselor, with years of experience dealing with individuals facing countless number of problems, I have found that, at the heart of it all, is my clients never learning how to forgive. They are often so angry and bitter towards the things in their lives, more specifically their past, that they cannot change. This is the number one reason that they cannot heal mentally, physically, or emotionally. This book offers not only practical advice about forgiveness, but also gets to the very heart of why you should forgive in the first place. This is finally a book I can actually recommend to my clients and with good reason. That's because "When God Stopped Keeping Score" is the best book that I have ever read about forgiveness. It is the one book that I can both professionally and personally recommend to everyone.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
After a very rough childhood, a failed marriage and years of anger and self-doubt, I thought that I had heard it all and seen it all when it comes to forgiveness. So, when a friend shared this book with me, I was skeptical. I soon realized that this book proved me wrong in what I thought I knew about forgiveness and I am glad it did. You see I actually thought I knew what forgiveness was, because when I made a mistake I aways apologized. I had made every attempt to put the past behind me, but in my heart, I never felt that that was the end of things. I soon learned that I was making of the biggest mistakes ever because I never forgave the one person that needed it the most. That person was me. The other books that I have read only glossed over what forgiveness truly is. "When God Stopped Keeping Score" is the first book to truly put a face to it. This book gave me the strength to confront my deepest fears and I am grateful. Until now, I honestly couldn't say that I had the strength to wish someone, who has hurt me so, well and mean it. Now I can. That's why I even ordered a copy for my mother and my ex-husband, because I came to realize that they needed it just as much as I did. For anyone feeling any residual anger, hurt, guilt or pain, like me, this book is a must read. You owe that much to yourself.
The_Book_Mom More than 1 year ago
Hello! Hello! Hello! I have read many books in my lifetime, and still, it took me until today to say anything about one of the best of them. The book is When God Stopped Keeping Score. By page 77, I was asking myself why isn't this book on Oprah? I have never read a book that underlines the message, that it is not what happens to you that matters the most, but how you handle it that does. After reading some other review, well one in particular, I don't have the slightest idea why some people pick up a self help book and expect it to provide a relief to years of hatred and anger or as one dysfunctional individual put it, family dynamics that include blame and in-fighting. Instead of them blaming you and fighting amongst themselves, they should have been teaching you how to write a review. Your review made me think about something the author says about pointing fingers. Every time you point one, you get three pointed right back at you. Where were all the grammar errors, mistakes and errors. It has been a long time since Sister Frances made me write a book report, but, I suspect you needed somebody to blame for your problems and your blamed this author. You had me wondering did we read the same book, dear? I don't think you even read it, you couldn't point out one thing about it. What happened to the old woman who missed the bus? Who is Donna? I cried about the man and the window. Did you? What When God Stopped Keeping Score does, through helpful tips and powerful lessons, offers the reader a chance, as the author say, to find out what ails you mentally and emotionally, by helping you to find the moment when something or someone failed you. What I love most is how the author pulls back the curtain to his own life as well to show that you are not alone. How else can anyone talk about overcoming obstacles, if they never had to get deal with them? My heart goes out to the author. I'll let you be the judge. I challenge others to buy a copy and decide for themselves. How else are you going to know what happens to with hams or the speeding car and the cops? Those stories were my favorites. This book is a wonderful. But, sure to order another copy for somebody you know. I made the mistake of not doing that. You are going to want to talk about this one with someone, anyone. I called my sister at 11 at night the minute I was done. Yes, she was asleep.
LeslieKaye More than 1 year ago
I will re-read this book many times because the advise is excellent. However, this book is not just for Christians. The large cross on the cover is a narrow minded and closed representation about the act of forgiveness. Once you move beyond that, it is well worth reading and incorporating into your life but you have to be absolutely clear about your goal of forgiveness. There is a comment on the Amish and their act of forgiveness after their tragedy. I find their acts of forgiveness to be questionable and very selfishly motivated. Despite these 2 bumps in the road, take the time to read it and re-read it. It's good for the soul.
AnneMarie26 More than 1 year ago
I sat down to write this review and I honestly don't know what to say about this book. I am literally speechless. It's not because it was bad, it is because this book was just that good. With stories like the hams, the two men in the hospital and the father, the son and the bible, from the first page, I began to realize that I have never read a book like this and unless Clark writes another book of this caliber, I doubt that I ever will. There are only a few books that I have ever recommended to my friends and this just because one of them. When you read it, like so many other people have told me, you will understand why. This book is a must read.
SouthernGal71 More than 1 year ago
Call me foolish, but I read this book based on the "bad" reviews, because I secretly felt this book must be that good to strike so many raw nerves. Boy, I wasn't disappointed. This book hit the nail on the head so many times, I wondered when he'd put down the hammer. It is a great book. The only way this book is that hard to read is if you can't read it. To the the author, you did a wonderful job! I loved every minute of this book! I'd recommend this book to my worst enemy and my ex-husband! Keep on trucking! You have made this Southern Gal a believer in the power of forgiveness! Thank you!
LedByFaithInTheWillOfGod More than 1 year ago
After reading some of the reviews on here, I feel good that I am not alone in how I felt about this book, while this book isn't perfect, who is really perfect. You are not perfect and neither am I. As a Christian woman, I have always tried to live my life right. But, being human, I sometimes fall short. Now that I have read this book for the second time, and still leaf through it from time to time, I have come to realize that I am not alone. Yet, for each time I fall short, I can start again a little bit wiser than before. I agree this book isn't for everyone. I do think that anyone who ever gave it or ever will give it a low rating probably hasn't even read it. Look around this site, you will see people giving one or two start to books that haven't even been released yet and can't even tell you specifically why! That's why I too recommend that you read it for yourself. Who is a better judge of what you might like than you? Who knew that for the price of a movie ticket, I found something that changed my life. The stories in the book like the father, the son and the bible or the story of Honi are worth the price of the book alone. Give it the same chance to open your eyes to some of the things you only thought that you knew. I can safely say I am glad I did. You will too.
MB5 More than 1 year ago
Today, I came online to order more copies for family members of "When God Stopped Keeping Score" for several members of my families that tried everything they could to get their hands on my copy. One had read the story of the two men and the window and another had read the story of the mother, daughter and the rock and loved it. I had actually gotten my copy as a gift and refused to part with it. Imagine my surprise when I saw someone had posted one of the most hateful reviews I have ever read for any book. It honestly made me smile because it made me realize that whoever this person was, obviously the book hit too close to home. Not only was his or her review filled with the same poor sentence structure and grammatical errors, he or she accused the author of. Which aren't true, but he or she didn't have anything else to say. I had to wonder if he or she ever even read the book. I also found myself questioning was his or her life that miserable that she didn't bother to leave his or her name. This to me sounded like somebody angry with themselves or God and I can only pray for them. It sounds like the ramblings of a fool. My mother always said never to argue with a fool, especially one that I can't call by name. Speaking of name, he or she suggested that they tried to find out about the author's education and awards; i.e, stalking, which is illegal. I had to ask myself how can you find out what awards or education anyone have by just their initials. I feel sorry for whoever this poor misguided person is. I wholeheartedly recommend this book. It is well worth the price. Reading it, it almost felt like therapy. From the story of the potatoes to the story of Donna. I'm about to order six copies for my family and a few friends, like someone has done for me, because they are worth it. You owe it to yourself to decide for yourself.
MommyAndMeBookClub More than 1 year ago
Great book. Great delivery. Great message. Then, I found out that every dime earned from this book goes to support various women and children-based charities like The National Breast Cancer Research Institute, which funds breast cancer research, Feeding America, which feeds millions of hungry families, The Make-A-Wish Foundation, which fulfills the dreams of terminally ill children, The Special Olympics, which allows physically disabled and mentally challenged individuals in Olympic style events, The Texas Heart Institute, which fights heart disease, Habitat For Humanity, which builds homes for needy families, Women Against Abuse, which supports women who are the victims of domestic violence, and The National 9/11 Memorial, which honors those who were affected by 9/11, I cried. Finally, somebody got it right when it comes to helping others.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Yes! Yes! Yes! I just finished reading this book for a second time and I felt a need to sing its praises. Just like millions of people, I thought I knew what forgiveness truly is. This book opened my eyes to the truth and I will never be the same because of what I now know. If you are looking for a book that is as informative as it is insightful, then look no further. Buy it for yourself and someone you really love. They will thank you for it.
SeattleMamaBear More than 1 year ago
As a person that actually read "When God Stopped Keeping Score," I can understand why somebody would sing it's praises. It's a great book with a good message. It helped me a lot. What I don't agree with is a need for somebody to put people and books down in a review to make themselves feel better. It is petty and childish. If you read the book, Emily, you'd understand why I forgive you. Take care!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I am so sorry that I waited so long to buy this book. I kept coming back to it again and again and tried to find excuse after excuse not to buy it. I was wrong. This book is so good. No one has ever and I doubt ever will again explain what it means to forgive anyone like this book did. I can't say enough about it. Buy it. You'll see. You will see.
DaughterWifeMother More than 1 year ago
No one person can provide all the answers to life's problems, but when it comes to forgiveness, this book is an excellent start. Maybe that's because this is the first book that I have ever read in forty years that spoke to me and not just talked about me. It was written, and might I add written very well, not to be a textbook or even the bible. It is an honest look at so much more than forgiveness. I will warn you though, that this book isn't for everyone, especially not the types that read a lot of great reviews about a book and write something negative to try to prove people wrong. Negative reviews only come from negative people. Why even bother? You are wasting your time, because one bad apple never spoils a bunch. That's why I suggest other readers don't even take my word for it. I recommend that you decide for yourself after you have read your copy. You will gain a light of insight about a subject few people ever want to talk about.
ChicagosBestLibrarian More than 1 year ago
If you follow Author R.A. Clark on Facebook, you'd know he doesn't even see a dime of the money from this book. He's donating it all to several charities that help women and children like Women In Transition, that helps the victims of domestic violence, and families like Feeding America, that feeds thousands of hungry families every year. So much for stuffing the ballot.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
As somebody that doesn't usually write books, I felt a need to add my two cents. This book is really thought provoking and straight forward. I knew the road to forgiveness for a lot of things in my past wouldn't be easy, but this book is great start. Thank you.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I cannot get further than 30 pages into this book because of how poorly written it is. The author seems to have a good message and is probably a good speaker, but there is no way even one person looked over the manuscript. Besides being unclear at times and riddled with unnecessary commas, there are blatant typos such as, "They say you can't go home AGO" and "from bad to WORST" (he uses this one more than once). It is so frustrating and distracting to read that I can't focus on the content. It's like reading an 8th grader's essay. I'm shocked at the quality of this ebook, because it came up constantly as a recommended selection for me. It's not like I searched out some self-published unknown. BN kept throwing this junk in my face and now I'm sorry I bought it. The online sample and beginning of the book are not as bad, but it goes downhill very quickly. I would love to have read his message if someone would have edited it first.
MaryAlice1957 More than 1 year ago
As somebody like millions of others, I too struggled with truly forgiving others. I am not perfect. What surprised me more was this book's ability to teach me how to truly forgive myself. As a divorced mother, I don't think I was ready for even how this book addressed the topic of a failed marriages or even dealing with death. I dealt with both and I am so glad that I read this book. It made just the price of the book well worth it. You will see. This book is filled with stories that you'll want to share and helpful things that anyone can draw from to improve their own lives. As someone who has actually read this book, I feel better because of it. What will you say?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It is absolutely amazing. I have been having major problems with my teenaged daughter and I did exactly what the mother did in the story of the mother, the daughter and the rock. My relationship with my daughter has never been better. Thank you.
BookMarked More than 1 year ago
If you haven't read the book, why are you posting comments and playing review police with no badges? If someone likes the book, good for them. If they tell other people great! If you read the book, you'd know R.A. Clark is a teacher. Who has the time to keep posting reviews? If you want to do something, go vote on Election Day!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you are hurting and angry and can't forgive those who have hurt or defiled you this book is a must read!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great book. Nothing else needs to be said. I love it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Just like so many other people, I looked through other people's reviews about this book and questioned should I buy it. I was only my wasting time. This book was just what I needed. I am so glad I read it. You will too.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Finally, finally, somebody has gotten it right when it comes to finding forgiveness for ourselves and others. What is even more amazing is Clark doesn't tell this story from the point of view of someone who just writes about being hurt, feeling anger or guilt and ultimately, resentful, he writes as someone who lived through it. Best of all, Clark provides the only way tangible to get through it. I would recommend this book to anyone. Buy it and see for yourself.